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Do not fertilise in winter
My new plant came with one instruction in bold: do not fertilise in winter. In the dark months its roots stop absorbing, and the fertiliser builds up in the soil until it burns them. Every other living thing seems to know how to slow down. Trees let go. Bears sleep. Fields lie fallow. Then there's us, treating every season as harvest season, with a new target each quarter. This is an essay on burnout, the seasons your body still keeps, and one question worth asking: what seas

Unbraced Woman
Sep 285 min read


Why do we say "I'm fine" when we deeply long for help
If someone offering to help makes you tense instead of relieved, you're not alone.
For many of us, accepting help isn't difficult because we're stubborn or overly independent.
It's difficult because our nervous system has learned that staying in control feels safer than relying on someone else.
This 10-minute guided practice is the first in the Accepting Help Series.

Unbraced Woman
Aug 34 min read


You can't fake calm on a horse
Control often looks like competence, but sometimes it's simply a nervous system trying to feel safe. Horse riding offers a fascinating lesson because you cannot fake calm around a horse. It responds to the signals your body communicates, not the story your mind tells. Sometimes the greatest shift isn't learning to control more, but discovering that safety can exist without holding everything together.

Unbraced Woman
Jul 236 min read


Why do women often ignore fatigue signals until collapse?
Many women say, "I'm just tired," and carry on. But what if tired has quietly become your normal? Research suggests women's fatigue is shaped by far more than a lack of sleep. Biology, chronic stress, invisible work, caregiving, and workplace demands all accumulate over time, teaching the nervous system to treat exhaustion as the baseline. This article explores why we stop hearing the body's warning signs—and how neuroplasticity gives us hope for change.

Unbraced Woman
Jul 63 min read
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